Keep in mind that developing your NC child care contract should be a compromise-filled negotiation by both parties, not a fight, fight or some kind of game in which you win or lose. If you change your attitude and approach, a situation that was once doomed to be a very emotional and stressful experience will become a positive and productive process; where both parents ultimately understand, recognize and elevate the needs of children above their own. You want to make sure you address some things in the written custody agreement. And you want a written custody contract, because it also allows you to plan. What will you do if you are both in the situation where you expect to have the child for the holidays? They both intend to have the child for the holidays, there is no schedule — no written agreement — it is only the one who owns the child at that time can keep the child one way or another. It is incredibly important for single, separated and divorced parents to understand that negotiations and compromises must be an integral part of completing a child care model in North Carolina. The level of burden, complications and time required to complete this process is directly influenced by the willingness to negotiate and compromise between the two parents. Do everything in your power to ensure that your personal behaviour remains on a positive and mature path, allowing both parents to come to terms with an agreement that considers the “best interests” of children to be the most important aspect. The mother has sole and exclusive custody of the children and all final decision-making powers on important issues affecting the well-being of children, including, but not only, issues of education, religion and health care.
Notwithstanding the above, the father has the opportunity to participate in decision-making processes on these important issues, except in an emergency. To determine issues relating to children, such as custody, home visits and assistance, a court must approve any agreement according to the “Best Interests of the Child” standard. If both parents agree on this issue, a court is generally willing to include the agreement in official legal documents.